8 Practices To Boost Your Body Confidence Today Part 2
8 Practices To Boost Your Body Confidence Today - Part 2
Thanks for coming back! How are the practices working for you? Have you been journaling about them? As with all things, being consistent will have the most effect! Let’s keep going!
5. Act The Way You Want to Feel.
This idea came from Gretchen Rubin’s book “The Happiness Project”. Decide the way you want to feel in your body and than act as if you are actually feeling that way.
It’s amazing what that alone can do for your confidence and happiness; both choices we get to make daily. Sometimes we forget this or we let the world (or other people) drag us down. By the way, I highly recommend her book - I want to live a happy, inspired life and one of the ways I achieve this is to continually work on myself and read inspirational material. Identify what means the most to you and work on surrounding yourself with it. Bring all of these habits into your life one at a time. It won’t be long until you don’t need to “act” anymore; you will be that person.
Practice: In your journal answer the following questions:
How do you want to feel in your body and in your life? What do you need to do to show up as this person? Start doing it right now.
Examples: here is a few examples of what works for me – smile more, say please and thank you, be kind always, sit up taller, be grateful (I love to say the things I am grateful for when it comes to my body see tip from part 1), walk with confidence, dress for success to name a few. I have a good friend who truly changed her life with this technique. She once read a quote, something about, “She wanted to be a beautiful girl, so she became one.” This woman was a Mom, and always put everyone else first. She felt rundown and resentful. Instead, she wanted to be graceful, at peace, and elegant in addition to being loving. So she started to imagine herself as this. Gradually, she started taking better care of herself in all ways – drinking more water, eating better, saying no when she didn’t want to, or couldn’t, take anything else on and got enough sleep. She smiled and made eye contact, she held herself in a calm manner, and most importantly, she didn’t put herself down ever again. Read that again and let it sink in. To her amazement, she became graceful and elegant and people started to remark upon her beauty. Same woman; different beliefs about who she wanted to be.
6. Stop Scrolling The Socials and Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People.
Seriously you guys, stop comparing yourself to others. There are so many crazy apps, filters and professional photos that can easily make one feel less than if you allow yourselves to go down that rabbit hole. Do you want to focus more on rocking your sexy a%% self or focus on how other people are living their life? Really hoping you all said “rock my best self”. What’s that saying, “energy goes where attention flows”? Pay attention to yourself and how you want to feel and start acting as if you are that person and slow watch the magic happen.
Practice: Find ways to limit your screen time. Set a timer before you start scrolling. Maybe delete addictive apps or move them off the home screen, turn off notifications, put your phone out of reach or eye sight. Also make a promise with yourself that you will stop comparing and focus your attention on doing you. Be too busy living your own life and listening to your own inner voice instead of comparing yourself to others. Learn to recognize those negative comparison tapes that play in your head and get the journal out or go for a walk, but put that phone down!!
7. Find A Movement That You Love.
Honestly, I don’t even like to use the word exercise because it sounds like work. I love to use the expression “how am I going to move my body today?” It sounds hopeful and fun. Moving your body releases neurotransmitters that make you happier. This is proven science. The problem is that all too often we define “working out” as “going to the gym” or “running” and if you hate these, or had a terrible experience in high school gym (who didn’t?) you can see why it’s hard to stick to a workout routine. Instead focus on finding something you LOVE to do. Something that makes you FEEL REALLY GOOD. If you haven’t found your thing yet, it’s all good - Just keep trying new things until something clicks. It doesn’t always have to be a workout either, simply find a way to move your body daily.
One of the reasons moving your body improves your body confidence is that not only do you feel better in your body, often times you might feel proud, or strong in your body. You might also experience a sense of pride, happiness, gratitude and other positive things so add it in your schedule daily.
Practice: On Sundays, plan out your week and schedule in time for moving your body. Yesterday, was Saturday and the weather was perfect. I didn’t want to run so my movement was playing water tag with my kids, it was fun, made me feel good, and oh man, was it a cardio workout. As with all of our new practices, brainstorm in your journal – make lists. Ask fit friends how they do it. I guarantee you, they had to start somewhere too and work up to where they are today. Have courage, and move to the next practice below.
8. Be Your Own Bestie.
When you look at your body in the mirror what do you see? What do you say? Would you ever speak to a best friend that way? If the answer is No, why would you be that unkind to yourself?
Would you bail on your friend for a workout or whatever? No, then don’t bail on yourself. Would you trust the friend that always bails on you? No, you totally would think that they were a flake. So stop flaking out on yourself and your goals for feeling happier and more content in your body today. Show up for yourself, commit to doing what makes you happy, what makes you feel really good. Take the time to invest in you. You are in control of how you feel and how you choose to live your life. Take the time to ask yourself what you want. Take the time to ask yourself who you are and how you want to feel each and every day. Spend more time doing things that elevate your life, nourish your soul and leave you feeling empowered.
Practice: Love yourself today right now in this moment.
You are a beautiful human being that deserves to be happy, confident, and so loved. A great tool for this is a Body Confidence Mantra like this one: “I love my body as it is today”. If this mantra doesn’t work for you, then find or create your own and say it daily. I mean, several times a day. Fill your passport with stamps of affirmation on this journey to body confidence. I’m on this journey right alongside you.
Writing this blog post just made my heart happy and I hope you felt the same way. For years I told myself I was a terrible writer and would not write because I thought I was awful at it. That changed slightly after I wrote my first cookbook, and I realized I had to write. I also realized that I wasn’t as bad as I thought and in my experience the only way to get better is to do start. Right now, I am truly grateful for being able to share my voice, ideas, thoughts, struggles, successes and just helpful information with others. Writing this made me feel good. Sharing the tips I used and still use daily to work on my body confidence and my happiness leaves my heart feeling inspired. I truly hope these tips help you. I love this community so much and I want you all to feel that love, and truly always commit to loving yourself right here, right now.
I would love to know what you think of these tips if you find them helpful. Please feel free to share a tip that works for you in the comments below, I would love to hear. If you found this article helpful, and it would mean the world to me if you could share it with someone you feel would enjoy it.
Now go, grab your journal and pick a practice from the post (or from part 1) that resonates with you the most and write it down. Practice. Repeat. Smile and just love yourself.
Have the most lovely week,